Getting to know you!

by Andy Horner

What does listening mean to you?

There was a real popular song many years ago from the musical, The King and I, called Getting to Know You —“Getting to know you, getting to know all about you. Getting to like you, getting to hope you like me….”
We live in a world of words, and yet it seems we talk more, but communicate less! That makes it hard to really know someone.

Good listening is so crucial for effective communication. People believe generally that being the speaker is more important than being the listener—it’s the way you get people to do what you want them to do, understand you, be impressed by you.

There’s no denying the importance of talking, but conversation is two-sided. It’s talking with people, not at them. What kind of countless situations do you find yourself in when it’s important to understand what the other person is saying?

  • a friend asking for a favor
  • your child telling you about their field trip coming up
  • a Jeweler in your downline sharing why she missed training
  • important business information shared from the Home Office

Every day people try to communicate with us, and it’s our responsibility to listen and to listen well. They want to feel listened to because it makes them feel cared about and special.

There are many reasons why we do not listen well and maybe you can add to the ones below.

Preoccupation or Daydreaming. Our to-do lists are never ending, our calendars full, we do not have a spare minute to give someone else because we are filling our mind with chores, problems, and ideas. We are unable to give our focus to another person.

Attitude. I’ve shared many times how vital it is to have a good attitude to be successful and it’s just as important to being a good listener. Moods or feelings may color our thinking and block us from being able to listen objectively and openly.

Self-centeredness. We all have the tendency to believe that what we have to say is the most important. (Could also be called argumentativeness when we have to make our own point instead of understanding one another.)

Busy-ness. It takes time to communicate, and it seems the more intelligent man gets, the more gadgets we create, the less time we have for each other… “I’m so busy.”

Jumping to conclusions. It’s easy to judge, evaluate, approve or disapprove too hastily.

The greatest thing we can do for another person is to truly listen to what they’re saying. Seek understanding and respond, not react, to them appropriately. Yes, it takes a lot of self-discipline, but when we listen, we can recognize the needs and motives behind the words, and we can show that person we care and are interested in them. Becoming a better listener makes us more effective as a leader and friend.

Listening Is a Part of Love!

 

 

Thankful in All Things

4th-reader-quote“The Pilgrims made seven times more graves than huts…nevertheless, set
aside a day of thanksgiving.”
— H.W. Westermayer

In America’s earliest permanent settlers, the Pilgrims, were people who were inspired by profound religious beliefs to overcome incredible odds. Before their voyage, the congregation, who had fled England for Holland, set aside a day of worship and thanksgiving to prepare for the journey. The day was described as being filled “with the joy of grief.”n our society today, the figure of Santa Claus dominates Christmas and the Easter Bunny has become the figure at Easter. And now, some people even refer to Thanksgiving Day as “Turkey Day.” It seems likely accurate as I believe most people give more attention to the preparation and consumption of turkey on Thanksgiving than they do the expression of thanks.

The Pilgrims traveled to the New World on one of the most difficult journeys thought possible. In spite of drastic and unforeseen weather changes, fierce storms, and icebound shores, the Pilgrims pressed trusting that the Lord. And when they arrived, they immediately set aside a day of worship and thanksgiving.

Their suffering did not end when they arrived at Plymouth Rock in December 1620. They faced a harsh winter which claimed the lives of half their colony. And when spring arrived, they once again stopped and gave thanks to God.

They planted and reaped their first harvest, giving hope of survival and God’s blessing. It was a time of great thanksgiving to God and this is the day that we commemorate on our November holiday. It’s amazing to me that they expressed thanks before, during and after some of the most difficult circumstances. wjbryan-quoteThe Bible echoes this – to be thankful in everything, at all times, continually.

There are 138 passages of Scripture that deal with the subject of thanksgiving throughout the entire Bible. Two of my favorites are:

1 Chronicles 16:34: “Give thanks to the LORD, for He is good; His love endures forever.”

Psalm 95:2-3: “Let us come before Him with thanksgiving and extol Him with music and song. For the LORD is the great God, the great King above all gods.”

As we enter this Thanksgiving season, let us thank God for America and the Pilgrims and those who built our nation on Biblical principles. Let us never forget that this country was built on Biblical truth set forth in the Old and New Testaments. May we give thanks unto the Lord for He is good and His mercy endureth forever. Always remember, trust in the Lord.

Grateful to God,

His blessings overflow,

Andy Horner

 

 

Remembering Premier’s Legacy

 

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In 1985, after much prayer, Joan and I, along with God’s direction, founded Premier Designs, Inc. Together, we wrote out our Philosophy, Purpose and Reasons for Existence on our kitchen table as seen in the museum. Our desire was to merely finance the company, hire others to run it and stay in the background. God had a different plan. It became clear, after only a few months, that we needed to become more active in the daily operations, and then in 1990, we became official leaders of Premier. This turned out to be a time of renewal that God has used to bless Premier.Read More »

 Taking The Form of a Servant

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Service is not just an act — it is a way of life

By Andy Horner

A small replica of this statue with  Jesus washing the feet of His disciples sits in my office, and you will find a larger one outside our chapel here at your Home Office. Philippians 2:5-11 is one of my favorite passages in the Bible because it depicts how Jesus modeled the type of service we should live.

Jesus’ example: He opened their eyes with faith, their ears with truth, their hearts with love. He asked for no honors for himself. He met their needs and fulfilled their hopes. He changed their lives. That is the model for real success—these are the things that will bring joy, peace and hope.Read More »